Feminism, the Nose-Ring Theory, and Our Potential Extinction

I have an acquaintance. She’s a lot younger than me. I like her, but she’s one of those people who thinks she’s a rebel by doing things which are annoyingly conventional for women her age.

I try not to hold that against her, because it’s quite clear she’s been propagandized and indoctrinated into a worldview she will hopefully discard. I think she’s smart enough to do that.

Eventually.

And because I like to keep politics and even social commentary confined to my professional life and out of my day-to-day life as much as I can, and because she certainly doesn’t share my beliefs (at least not at this point in her life), when I see her, I try to steer clear of the heavy stuff. Who wants an argument when it’s not necessary?

But the other day, I couldn’t avoid it. Because the other day, when I saw her, she whined to me that a male acquaintance of hers had told her that her nose ring (she actually has two, including the dreaded ring through her septum) was “repellent.”

“That’s so obnoxious!” she protested. “How can he tell me that?”

I said nothing. I just gave her a look as though to say, Please leave me out of this.

That wasn’t good enough for Ashley (which isn’t her name; I’m trying to protect the innocent/guilty here), so she demanded that I defend her choice of facial metallurgy.

Which I was absolutely not going to do, as Ashley’s tormentor was clearly in the right — no matter how indelicate he may have been.

“What do you care what this guy thinks?” I asked, instead of engaging with the subject.

“I don’t,” she told me. Which seemed like a lie.

Nevertheless, I used that — deftly, I thought — as a means of escaping from the conversation.

But Wednesday I ran across a piece by Tyler Durden from a week ago at ZeroHedge that dived into the nose-ring question with far more boldness than I was willing to lay on Ashley. As Durden notes, single men are exhausted with a certain tribe of females in America and other Western countries, and the thumbs are most certainly down…

In the swiftly degenerating world of western relationships one factor above all others can be identified as the culprit: Feminism. The driving force behind third-wave feminism is not the pursuit of equal rights (which women already have), it’s the pursuit of power. Like any communist movement, unilateral power over society is the end goal.

When power is the goal, such movements naturally attract narcissistic people and inspire narcissistic behaviors. How can the nuclear family function when the female half of the equation (which is supposed to act as a nurturing balance) is conditioned to become self serving, ego-maniacal, conflict oriented, status obsessed, victim obsessed and desperate for control?

Today, 63 percent of men are single with the majority not looking for a partner. By the year 2030, 45 percent of western women between the ages of 25 and 45 will be single and childless (spinsters). It’s a demographic disaster; it’s the end of civilization as we know it, and that’s exactly what the political left wants.

Feminism is the key to creating this crisis because it disrupts the basic biological and psychological imperatives of men and women — this is well documented. But beyond women using their prime years to pursue careers over marriage and family, there is the factor of emotional and mental incompatibility with the vast majority of men.

Even if modern women decided they prefer to find a man in 2025, most men do not want them. This has led to what some are calling the “female loneliness epidemic”; a rise in women seeking relationships but unable to find men willing to reciprocate. Within feminist circles, the word on the street is that men are “no longer approaching.”

This is a trend that is visible in many European countries (and Canada and Australia) where feminism has been allowed to spread beyond universities and into vital social structures. Men wait for women to approach, or, they avoid women altogether.

The theories are numerous. Feminists claim men are “losing their masculinity” and are “too frightened of strong independent women.” This is a bit of gaslighting and a bit of cope. At no point do modern women ever consider the possibility that they are the problem, nor do they ever ask men to explain the situation. Why? Because they don’t want to hear the truth.

Among the videos Durden includes to illustrate the growing consensus among men in the dating marketplace that certain women are untouchable from the standpoint of a candidate for a relationship is one from the Whatever Podcast’s Brian Atlas (warning: the language here isn’t particularly safe for work)…

Nose ring theory. Also, there’s that famous female empathy! pic.twitter.com/mCujsf8THI

— Brian Atlas (@BrianAtlas) August 18, 2025

Then Durden notes that the nose rings have become a definitive tell…

One particular trend that has gone viral and has feminists enraged is “nose ring theory,” also known as “septum ring theory.”

The trend is based on an observable stereotype: The idea that many crazed feminists on social media tend to have the exact same physical characteristics. It’s the blue hair, the face, neck and full body tattoos, the high cut bangs and, of course, they almost always seem to have septum rings in their noses. Men have noticed the similarities and are now avoiding any woman with these features.

The theory is supported by the leftist habit of using symbolic identifiers, much like a cult would use to pick out other adherents in a crowd. When the pandemic mandates failed to garner enough public support in the U.S. and the mask requirements were abandoned (largely because the masks were proven to be useless), the political left continued to wear them anyway. Why? Because the masks had become symbolic of the cult, a uniform for the woke.

The septum ring is the new covid mask. It’s a signal to other believers that they are on the same side.

Then there’s the psychological concerns. Women with inordinate body modifications including ample piercings and tattoos are seen by men as self obsessed, impulsive or mentally incapable of settling for normality. Nihilism is common, not to mention depression, manic unpredictability and lack of emotional intelligence (reason). In other words, they might be unhinged. This doesn’t stop some men from looking for a good time, but it does stop them from seeking a long term relationship.

And this is exactly it.

Men are generally much worse at sending signals to women as to what is desirable and what is not than women are to men. This is easily explained by biology, of course; the male sex drive is not easily controlled, and so guys will put up with things that are utterly intolerable if they think there is sex to be had in the bargain. (RELATED: He Loved You More Than Life Itself — And It Killed Him)

But — and this is truer in the 21st century than perhaps ever before — while the woman might be in control of the question whether there will be sex, the man is in control of the question of how far the relationship will go. (RELATED: Please Deliver Us From the Poorly-Behaved Women)

And men do not want relationships with women who wear rings in their noses. Those women might be worth a booty call or even friends-with-benefits status, but that’s all they’ve got coming to them so long as that circle — or horseshoe — protrudes from the schnoz.

Now, this, for a disturbingly large percentage of the female population under, say, 35 years old, is not a problem. For many of these women, the nose ring is a signifier that they have no interest in a relationship with a man, and that they only want men for sex.

That might be tragic, and it’s certainly less than optimal when your national birth rate is far below replacement and the percentage of children growing up in two-parent households is alarmingly low. But on the other hand, there’s a certain symmetry here — they don’t want a man, and they sure as hell aren’t getting one. (RELATED: The Left Has a Baby Dilemma)

It’s hilarious, though, to hear some of these girls insist that they’re qualified for a guy six feet tall, with a six-figure income and six-pack abs. Good luck with those expectations. When guys of that profile hear you talk, they’ll have one look at that septum ring and all they’ll hear is “mmoooooo.”

If we have too much of this, we’re going to have a whole country of people dying alone, having never actually procreated the species. It’s a whole different column that I don’t want to write, which will talk about what steps will then be necessary to keep our society from dying out.

Which is a real possibility. Did you know that there are some advanced countries — South Korea being an example — where the birth rate is less than one-third of replacement? Ours isn’t that bad, but it’s too low and getting lower. This phenomenon isn’t helping. (RELATED: This Is What Civilizational Suicide Looks Like)

Yes, I am fully aware that we have lots of problems with male performance in the dating marketplace as well. I’ll get around to doing a column on that, too, provided I survive the fallout from this one.

And I feel bad for Ashley. Because she’s been taken in by a raft of propaganda that makes her believe that she’s somehow empowered by presenting herself in a way that makes her less attractive than God made her. I’m not arrogant enough to think I’ll be received as a white knight if I sat her down and tried to shake her out of the indoctrination that third-wave feminism has laid on her, and besides, it isn’t my business.

But it does piss me off.

Because the people foisting this on young women know something we’ve talked about here in this column and in the Spectacle Podcast that Melissa Mackenzie and I do, which is that single women vote Democrat by a factor of 2-to-1 or more, and the people in charge of the cultural institutions with the power to push the dominant narratives know it.

They’re doing everything they can to make and keep women single. They don’t mind polluting the public square with faces full of metal to get that result.

And in five years, or 10, Ashley will wake up and realize the time she’s lost having bought into their horrid lies. Hopefully, by then, the ring will be gone from her septum, the wound in her nose will have healed, and she’ll be happy with a husband and children.

But I’m not sure about that. And it’s terrible.

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